However as I move closer to my husband, I feel distant in my friendships.
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Friends who I hung out with virtually every weekend have been sort of an afterthought lately. It is not their fault. Rather it is a juggling act that I am still learning to perfect.
One thing I've learned so far is you have to work a little bit each day to have a lasting marriage. However I don't want to be one of those wives that are so totally absorbed in their spouses that they've forgotten their friends and family.
Friendships give me a sense of community. But in the case of at least one friend I reconnected with recently, some friends don't understand that marriage changes one's priorities and I can't party like when I was unattached.
David has been supportive of my desire to reconnect with friends. I think it helps that I make sure he knows my friends and that I discuss (in advance!) when I want to have a girl's night out.
Another way to balance things is to include your spouse in the fun. Have double dates with your married /engaged friends or just hang out together at the movies. Just make sure your spouse doesn't feel like the third wheel.
Facebook has been a saving grace when I can't connect with friends in person. I can see what people are doing, exchange news and give words of encourage.
Phone calls are a great way reconnect and fellowship with friends.
I also pray for my friends when they cross my mind.
Balance is key in any part of life. Don't believe me? Check out Ecclesiastes 3 Hopefully this post helps other newlyweds balance their marriage and friendships.